How To Be Optimistic

1. Let go of the assumption that the world is against you, or that you were born with a gray cloud over your head. It is an assumption that has no basis in reason or science. To believe that the universe or a spiritual entity has singled you out and shifted the world order just to make your life miserable is both self-centered and illogical. Be humble and stop pretending you've got the world all figured out. Sometimes bad experiences lead to good experiences, and you can't predict the future, so you can't assume it'll always be bad.

2. Look for the source of your pessimism. Deep-rooted negativity can often be traced to childhood experiences, when growing minds observe their circumstances and make presumptions about how the world functions. If all you saw growing up were disappointments, betrayals and failure, it's no surprise that now it's what you expect from the world as an adult. Sometimes we pick up a flair for pessimism from a parent who made negative assumptions about the world somewhere along the line. Either way, the sooner you can attribute your pessimism to a unique set of circumstances rather than the state of the world itself, the easier it'll be to change your perspective.

3. Understand that the past does not equal the future. Just because you've experienced pain or disappointment in the past does not guarantee that it's all you'll experience in the future. There were many things in your past that you couldn't control, and everybody comes across unfortunate circumstances at some point in their lives - you're no exception. But there are also many things in life we can control to one degree or another, and therein lies the possibility of change. A day or week that starts badly will not necessarily end badly. Do not make a bad start turn into a self fulfilling prophecy for a bad ending.

4. See yourself as a cause, not an effect. You don't have to be a product or a victim of your circumstances. Stop thinking about what is happening to you and start thinking about what you can make happen. If you're not happy with the way your life is now, set goals and move on. Use your past negative experiences to build character and make better decisions, instead of letting pessimism turn you into someone who avoids risk at all costs. Sometimes it is necessary to take risks to receive rewards. Moreover, taking no action is taking an action. It is better to play to win rather than merely to avoid losing.

5. Accept pain, failure and disappointment as a part of life, not the entirety of it. Life involves taking many risks every day, and not all of them will end positively. That's what defines risk. But the flip side is that some actions will lead to good results, and it's generally better to have a mixed bag than to have nothing at all. Ideally, the good stuff will outweigh the bad, but you'll never reach that point unless you put yourself out there and hope for the best. When in doubt, remember Lord Alfred Tennyson's words of wisdom:

I hold it true, whate'er befall;
I feel it, when I sorrow most;
'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all.

6. Be thankful. Everyone has something to be grateful for. Make a list of the good things that have happened to you. If nothing instantly springs to mind, you aren't trying hard enough. The key to being an optimist is recognizing the benefits and possibilities of any situation, and understanding that it could always be worse. If all else fails, think of how life could be worse, and flip the thought process to recognize what you do have. For example: "I'm flunking out of school" can turn into "Well, at least I have a chance to go to school, and I still have time to turn my grades around." Get a notebook and a pen, and write down all the good things that you have. Every time you are feeling negative, read through them and remind yourself that it's not all bad.

7. Use positive affirmations. Write down short statements that remind you of what you're trying to change about the way you see the world. Put them in places where you'll see them every day, such as on your bathroom mirror, the inside of your locker, on your computer monitor, and even taped to your shower wall. Some affirmations to start with are:

* "Anything is possible."
* "I create my circumstances, my circumstances don't create me."
* "The only thing I can control is my attitude towards life."
* "I always have a choice."

8. Remember that life is short. When you feel pessimism clouding your judgment or you start to feel down about the future, remind yourself that every minute counts, and any time spent brooding guarantees nothing but less time to enjoy whatever life might have to offer. At its core, pessimism is impractical because it causes you to spend time dwelling on things that haven't happened yet and aren't guaranteed to happen, and it prevents you from getting things done. Pessimism breeds indecision. It's a waste of time, and time is a limited resource that you can't afford to take for granted.

9. Be a balanced optimist. Nobody's suggesting that you become an oblivious Pollyanna, pretending that nothing bad can or ever will happen. Doing so can lead to poor decisions and invites people to take advantage of you. Instead, be a rational optimist who takes the good with the bad, in hopes of the good ultimately outweighing the bad, and with the understanding that being pessimistic about everything accomplishes nothing. Prepare for the worst but hope for the best - the former makes you sensible, and the latter makes you an optimist.

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Is It Half Full or Half Empty???

Orang jadi pengurus kat office. Aku jadi pengurus kat rumah. Bukan calang-calang pengurus pulak tu. Sebab akulah pengurus besar keluarga ni. Ha ha ha ...Dari bapak budak sampai la ke budak - budak nak kene urus.

Tak cukup tangan, kaki pun kerja. Kepala ni duk memikir apa nak kene bereskan hari ni dan esok seterusnya. Nak buat apa...nak masak apa...budak-budak nak bagi makan apa...kat rumah
ada stok makanan apa yang tinggal...nak kene beli apa...ada appointment luar nak kene alert...

Seringkali jugak bila letih dan bosan ngan rutin harian, nak lari je rasa. Bukan nak lari p mana pun. Lari dari rutin biasa. Nak jugak masa untuk diri sendiri. Selalu gak curik masa keluar jalan sorang - sorang, gi shopping ke, main game ke hapa. Anak - anak tinggal kat rumah. Biar apaknya pulak jaga. Tak pun anak-anak keluar ngan apaknya. Mamanya tinggal kat umah sensorang. Enjoy masa bersendirian kat rumah plak. Dulu, rajin gak main volleyball kat dewan UWA. Sekarang bila team volleyball beralih arah ke badminton, hilang minat rasa nak join.

Bila tengah seronok senang la nak optimis. Positif. Cuba bila 'down', memang jauh dari optimis. Hilang semangat. Everything seems so big and difficult. Easily give up before trying.

Hmmmmh...Pernah rasa gitu??? Mesti pernah rasa kan...tapi berapa lama nak atasi rasa down tu mungkin berbeza setiap individu. Ada orang cepat . Ada orang lambat.

How to Be Optimistic

• Let go of the assumption that the world is against you, or that you were born with a gray cloud over your head.
• Look for the source of your pessimism.
• Understand that the past does not equal the future.
• See yourself as a cause, not an effect.
• Accept pain, failure and disappointment as a part of life, not the entirety of it.
• Be thankful. Everyone has something to be grateful for.
• Use positive affirmations.
• Remember that life is short.
• Be a balanced optimist.

There is a saying says, "Positive things happen to positive people".

Tag Dari Zue

Ni gambar seorang budak lelaki yang tengah khusyuk bermain game di meja komputer. Lokasi tersebut juga dikenali sebagai workstation mamanya di bilik belakang. Budak ni memang suka 'hijack' komputer mamanya untuk mengisi masa lapangnya. Selain bermain game, die juga suka menonton kartun kat situ. Haiyaaaaaaa...

p/s: Gambar ini telah diedit oleh mamanya supaya lebih cantik untuk diuploadkan bagi membalas 'challenge' dari Acik Zue.

Rules:
1) Go to your photos folder in your computer.
2) Go to the 6th folder of photos.
3) Go to the 6th picture in that folder.
4) Put the picture on your blog and description of it.
5) Invite six friends to join the challenge.
6) Link them in your blog and let them know they have been challenged.

1. Done
2. Done
3. Done
4. Done
5. Not Done
6. Not Done
No 5 & 6 are not done because i do not have 6 friends to join the challenge.

Me and My Best Mate

Pejam celik pejam celik dah nak masuk 8 bulan dak E-m4n minum susu aku. Hmmh, tak sangka gak mampu bertahan sampai sekarang. Terus terang, aku agak was-was yang susu aku boleh bertahan dengan 'Exclusive Breastpumping'. Dengan anak sulong aku dulu, kene gak gagah buka tin formula.

Tak mahu kecewa lagi untuk kali kedua. Jadi, dari masa mengandung E-m4n lagik aku dah berazam dan kutip ilmu-ilmu tentang breastfeeding ni.Masa awal2 breastfeeding, macam - macam gak halangan. Sib baik abang ada. Positif sket jadiknya.Kalau tak, sejuk taik ayam aku.Heheheee...

Avent isis, ngan spectra dah jadi tukun dalam almari. Heheheheeee...Dulu aku nak sambar Medela Frestyle. Masa tu(8 bulan lepas), kat Australia belum ada lagi Freestyle. Kalau nak kene order dari US. Tapi tak de warranty lah. Masa tu currency $AUD ngan $USD lebih kurang sama nilai, rambang mata. Harga nya memang murah kalau nak banding kt M'sia.

Tu yang jadi 'nak beli ke tak nak beli'.

Dalam masa yang sama jugak, PISA tengah sale kat Toy 'r' Us. Kebetulan poket tengah berisi, tengok punya tengok, pikir punya pikir, akhirnya aku sambar PISA. Pengaruh paling besar dan utama sebab abang buat kenyataan,"Freestyle ni baru lagi tak tau macamana 'performance'nya.". So abang kata tak yah la amik dulu. Walaupun dalam hati nak gak merasa Freestyle. Tapi kuredha jugak PISA menjadi jodohku.

Overall performance PISA ni aku bagi rate 4.5/5 bintang. Kenapa kurang 0.5 ? Sebab ... walaupun die ni bagus die pun ade kekurangan yang aku kene sabar. Antaranya,

- susu senang masuk dalam tiub. Cara nak atasi, bila tengah let down, aku 'loose'kan kejap(dlm 1-2 saat)shield dari lekapan pada 'Miss T'.Then tukar kepada let down mode. Kadang tu aku terlalai gak, terlelap ke tgh baca buku ke...terleka. Kesannya, habis laaaa...masuk dlm pam.

- besar la jugak nak bawak (4kg). Dengan persalinan lengkap untuk dua orang budak, diaper extra, botol2 susu, changing mat, nappy cream, stroller, cooler, warmer dan pam sumer...memang bapak banyak gile nak kene angkut. (Bak kata Zai, macam nak balik kampung)....Langsung aku jadi malas nak jalan jauh. Aku jadi lebih suka duduk kat rumah dan bersiar2 di sekitar sini aje.

- Kalau, tak de plug nak plug-in atau blackout ke boleh pakai bateri.Tapi bateri punya la banyak nak kene guna. As for me,"Plug-in" untuk kegunaan dalam kereta, abang buat sendiri. Tapi bagi sape yang tak reti nak buat sendiri, nak beli kat kedai pun boleh.

So far this is the best non-hospital grade pump i ever have. Banyak berjasa. Ciri 2 phase suction yang ada banyak membantu. So sape yang nak susukan anak dengan susu ibu tapi bermasalah nak direct breastfeeding, jangan putus asa. Tak dapat direct feeding, cuba usahakan cara lain. Macam aku aku pilih untuk pam dan botolkan.

Kat luar tu ade lagi pam-pam lain yang bagus. Tapi sebab aku tak pernah guna yang selain yang aku guna, jadi aku tak leh la nak bagi review bagus ke tak.

Apapepun kita berusahalah untuk yang terbaik dengan apa yang kita mampu, selebihnya biarlah Allah lah yang tentukan...


-----Progress report.-----

My target to give E-m4n breast milk up to 6 months old : Successfuly Achieved.

My target to give E-m4n breast milk up to 12 months old : In Progress.

Surprises Of The Week!

Surprises Of The Week!

• Abang beli basikal baru! Second hand actually. Tapi masih baru, sebab tuan empunya basikal lama dah nak balik M'sia. Dah tak kematu punggung bawak basikal.

• E-m4n dah merangkak sepenuhnya! Yea! Alhamdulillah. Sebenarnya die terpaksa. Nak tau sebab apa? Ibu kaki die sakit akibat terlalu banyak mengesot (sebab digunakan untuk menghasilkan daya tujahan kedepan, menolak badan ketika mengesot). Jadi, nak tak nak kene la merangkak supaya tak sakit ibu kaki.

• E-m4n nganga mulut untuk makan! Resipi ni die suka nampaknya, bubur nasi + kentang + lobak merah + semolina. E-m4n payah nak nganga mulut untuk makan."Picky eater!"...Quite a task jugak nak bagi die makan. Tak macam abangnya. Suap la apa saja. Nganga aje.

• Sistem air panas telah dibaiki setelah aku call khamis lepas komplen dengan nada serius sebab dah dua minggu tapi "NOTHING IS DONE!". Aku pernah la cakap kat abang kot kot uni nak tukar egent manage rumah tak. Tu yang lambat je respon bila kami komplen. 'Simptom' kejadian yang sama pernah berlaku masa agent rumah lama kami nak bertukar. Sehari lepas water heater system dibaiki, kami terima surat yang mengatakan rumah kami akan bertukar agent bermula mac ini. "Haaa, tengok ni i.s.y.a.h dok sebut-sebut semalam...kan dah masin!"-kata abang sambil menunjukkan surat pemberitahuan rasmi. (Alermak!)... Yang merisaukan kami, adakah sewa akan naik berganda2 banyaknya dibawah agent baru ni. Mampu ke nak bayar nanti???Janganlah hendaknya, kami ni student bukan orang kaya.

• 5ol3h mula nak bercakap! Die nak nak mula ikut apa yang aku sebut. Jelas tak pelat sebutannya. (Words yang aku ajar). Sebelum ni 5ol3h tak nak bercakap. Die lebih suka tak menyebut dimulut tapi dengan tunjuk2 saja.Sekarang ni kami tengah berusaha nak bantu die. 5ol3h kami hantar ke unicare 2x seminggu. Nak die belajar bersosial dan bercakap. Harap die dapat belajar banyak.

Arrrrrrghhhh...panas lagik! (.....sambungan)

Semalam seperti yang dijangka terjadi,jadi juga. Panas!...budak2 panas, mak budak rimas, yang cool bapak budak je.Sib baik bapak budak sabar... Semalam die sudi duk umah tulong mama jaga anak2 sama2. Belah petang baru die p opisnya yang sejuk ber'air-cond' itu.

E-m4an nangis...nangis ... panas, die payah tido. Sian. Nak tengok die senyum, jangan harap. Acan la cemana sekalipun. Senyumannya mahal.Kalau mama kaya, mama dah beli air-cond,nak... AUD2000 sebijik pun tak pe.Serius! Apekan daya...ingin kubeli,duit tak ade!

Hari ni panas jugak sebenarnya...tapi tak sepanas semalam. Alhamdulillah. Pepagi bukak pintu tingkap semua, kumpul udara sejuk masuk dalam rumah. Malam pun gitu jugak. Tengah hari je tutup supaya bahang luar tak masuk rumah. Bebudak ni pun ok sket dr semalam. Nak dimandikan bebudak ni tapi nanti kulit kering. Gatal2 lah pulak. Jadik lap lap kan aje. Abang 50l3h je dibenarkan main air kat bath tub. Adik tak boleh! Sebab bawah umur...heheheheeeee...

Sebenarnya arini, aku expect plumber datang umah betulkan hot water system umah ni. Report dah dibuat dari minggu lepas lagik. Nape la tak sampai2...Dulu kalau wat report kat minah Amy tu cepat je...kat minah Elyana (ntah pakai sedap bantai je aku eja), tak de apa tindakan pun. Sekarang ni masa tengah panas, air panas tak diperlukan sangat. Tapi kang tetiba je cuaca sejuk mai nanti camno plak...tak ke jenuh tu ... Aduhai...

Arrrrrrghhhh...panas lagik!

Esok dijangka panas lagik.

42 darjah celcius!!!!

Aku sendiri panas aku boleh sabar...tapi bila tengok anak2 aku asyik meragam dalam kepanasan, aku tak tau la tahap mana kesabaran aku ni.